Friday, 7 August 2009

Turkish Engagement Party


A close friend of mine got engaged yesterday. I knew it would be boring but as she is my friend I just had to be there. The 'Party' was without music, there was an half hour praying, where everyone almost fell asleep. I just wanted to show you a fun Turkish detail, the ring ritual...


The rings are bound on a red ribbon, so may the bound be forever (red ribbons are also used at wedding as you can see here).


Again a little prayer before cutting the ribbon.

23 comments:

  1. That is so cool! I'm not familiar with Turkish traditions so this is very interesting. Thanks for sharing. I'm curious: Do they keep the ribbon on the rings or do they later take them off?

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  2. Thanks Becky!
    They take them off after the evening, so the normal ring remains. They do safe the ribbon in their home :)

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  3. Truly bound together, very nice!

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  4. lovely tradition; but why do they cut the ribbon ? Has that a meaning ?

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  5. I haven't been able to find the reason P8 :) I guess it is hard to stay attached like that for hours and I have the feeling that no one really knows why LOL While cutting the ribbon they do say 'may the rest come' meaning marriage, the wedding :)

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  6. Mine was different; we went to the justice office and just signed names under 2 witness and a judge. no praying at all...
    maybe there is different habits everywhere. I live in Istanbul.

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  7. ...or maybe I don`t remember if there was praying..I was so excited :D

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  8. LOL Heli :)
    It could be that you didn't engage but married right away? The ribbon ritual is for the engagement and doesn't happen at the wedding.

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  9. Well, you can make something very pretty out of a ring and some red ribbon, I'm sure!

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  10. always nice to read about the turkish traditons!

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  11. I think your friend's or her fiance 's family is little bit religious people. I want to show you my sister's engagement party photos 4 years ago. My husband to ring them finger, he doesn't know any pray LOL Yes, red ribbon is there :) The party was at my home, we was eat, drink wine or cocktail , listen to the music and eat engagement cake . Photos are here http://www.flickr.com/photos/meltemsem/?saved=1

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  12. Meltem, yes indeed. My friend's family is religious your sister's engagement sounds much better :D

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  13. Oh so interesting! Beautiful tradition :)

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  14. Star, amazing but they are very very religious. We are never pray for engagement. Making the same things I mean red ribbon and cutting the ribbon..Cutting the ribbon meaning id starting to a new life together, it is like opening the new shop..I dont like any ceremony:((((

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  15. This is a wonderful moment to share! Thanks for sharing the tradition with us. I like to learn more about customs and traditions. Great great great! :)

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  16. Sweet tradition, but I was also wondering about the cutting part.

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  17. Periay gave the answer about the cutting: it is the new start of a life together :)

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  18. very interesting, hm... if the engagement party already like this, how is their wedding are I wonder:)

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  19. Congrats to your girlfriend on her engagement! It was very interesting to read about this turkish tradition with the rings. Thanks for sharing. :)

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  20. Huh, interesting. I don't think we have such rituals here? (Mr Morrgan's and my engagement was just a small thing between the two of us and it ended up with one of the biggest fights we've ever had, and our fights are rare. Funny to think about it now. :D )

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  21. Hi, do you think the red-ribbon ceremony could be incorporated into an American wedding between a Turkish man and an American-Jewish bride? There was no ring ceremony as such, because rings are not exchanged until the wedding in the U.S. Thought it would be nice to echo this ritual. There will be echoes of Jewish wedding tradition, too, like the Chuppah. Would really like to know what you think. Thank you.

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  22. I am wondering if you think the red-ribbon ceremony might be incorporated into an American wedding between a Turkish groom and a Jewish bride? There was no ring exchange prior to the actual wedding, as that is when rings are exchanged in the U.S. There will be echoes of Jewish wedding tradition, too. And thought it would be nice for the Ring Vows to include the red ribbon. Do you have any opinion on that? Thank you.

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  23. In some ceremonies, the future bride cuts little pieces of the ribbon for unmarried women to swallow wishing them luck in love/marriage.

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